How do we “know” it isn’t right? This is the kind of experience that is well known to artists, the poet looking for the right word in a poem, the artist looking for the right colour, or form. This kind of inward checking feels
like searching for resonance — against something in us which knows, not the whole situation, but what the next step has to be. If we get the next bit right, we can feel a kind of inside surface resonating, a physical sense of rightness, like
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In my work as a therapist I have found again and again that a major problem for many people (arising for a variety of reasons) is a lack of contact with this process. it is a common complaint, that people say they are just not sure how to make a
decision, how to know what they really think, or feel, what they really want to do. it is as though they look inside and try to check if something fits or not, but they just can’t find the surface which might resonate. If this is how things are
for you, then using the focusing steps, and making a habit of it, can be very effective — and step one, “clearing a space”, is probably vital.Designer Handbags
This kind of ‘resonating’ can be done all the time, whether actually doing the focusing procedure or not. When you are deciding what to buy in a shop, what to add to the meal you are cooking, or whatever you are doing that involves a
decision, you can try to check somewhere in the middle of your body, where you get emotional reactions to things, and see if it “rings true”. Does it respond “yes, that’s it” or is there a murmur of disquiet that needs
to be settled by an adjustment in your choice? Sometimes when we get overwhelmed by some kind of stress we find it hard to know what we actually like or dislike, we lose a sense of direct contact with things. This is a conscious way in which we can
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